From fork-admin@xent.com Fri Sep 6 15:28:33 2002 Return-Path: Delivered-To: yyyy@localhost.example.com Received: from localhost (jalapeno [127.0.0.1]) by jmason.org (Postfix) with ESMTP id 281FE16F6E for ; Fri, 6 Sep 2002 15:26:15 +0100 (IST) Received: from jalapeno [127.0.0.1] by localhost with IMAP (fetchmail-5.9.0) for jm@localhost (single-drop); Fri, 06 Sep 2002 15:26:15 +0100 (IST) Received: from xent.com ([64.161.22.236]) by dogma.slashnull.org (8.11.6/8.11.6) with ESMTP id g86EPWC10780 for ; Fri, 6 Sep 2002 15:25:35 +0100 Received: from lair.xent.com (localhost [127.0.0.1]) by xent.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id 1C3CB2942AA; Fri, 6 Sep 2002 07:18:03 -0700 (PDT) Delivered-To: fork@example.com Received: from localhost.localdomain (pool-162-83-146-23.ny5030.east.verizon.net [162.83.146.23]) by xent.com (Postfix) with ESMTP id 9CC6B2942A9 for ; Fri, 6 Sep 2002 07:17:28 -0700 (PDT) Received: from localhost (lgonze@localhost) by localhost.localdomain (8.11.6/8.11.6) with ESMTP id g86EE0508904 for ; Fri, 6 Sep 2002 10:14:01 -0400 X-Authentication-Warning: localhost.localdomain: lgonze owned process doing -bs From: Lucas Gonze X-X-Sender: lgonze@localhost.localdomain Cc: FoRK Subject: Re: Selling Wedded Bliss (was Re: Ouch...) In-Reply-To: Message-Id: MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: TEXT/PLAIN; charset=US-ASCII Sender: fork-admin@xent.com Errors-To: fork-admin@xent.com X-Beenthere: fork@example.com X-Mailman-Version: 2.0.11 Precedence: bulk List-Help: List-Post: List-Subscribe: , List-Id: Friends of Rohit Khare List-Unsubscribe: , List-Archive: Date: Fri, 6 Sep 2002 10:14:00 -0400 (EDT) X-Spam-Status: No, hits=-6.7 required=7.0 tests=AWL,IN_REP_TO,KNOWN_MAILING_LIST,MISSING_HEADERS, RCVD_IN_OSIRUSOFT_COM,SPAM_PHRASE_00_01,USER_AGENT_PINE, X_AUTH_WARNING,X_OSIRU_DUL,X_OSIRU_DUL_FH version=2.50-cvs X-Spam-Level: Related anecdote: I was eating in a restaurant in chinatown in Boston. The place was empty. The only other customer was a white guy reading an asian-language newspaper. The guy asked the waiter for help translating a word. Eventually his story came out. He had married an asian woman through one of these introduction services. after about a year of marriage she had charged him with assault and left him, leaving no contact information. He was hanging around in Chinatown, asking random asians for help finding her. I obviously don't know if he did assault her, but what struck me was that the possibility of mutual exploitation is high. Anecdote number two: In college I had a job as a street vendor. There was a guy I worked with who was a lifer in the job. He was a noticably messed up guy. Among other odd characteristics he fawned on women customers, doing stuff like offering them flowers. I asked him about it. He said that he'd never had sex with a woman who wasn't a prostitute, and his dream was to save up enough money to get a mail order bride. I was really moved. The guy was a loon, but he wanted a companion as much as anyone else and he was realistic about his chances.